authentic. For men who want to share their struggles and emotions and grow spiritually. Not a place of competition to compare each others Ego’s, but a place of elevating cooperation. When you look at all those gay jokes and men ridiculing Men’s work , you could easily think men are just not needing vulnerability. Holding conscious Men Circles for a few years now taught me something entirely different. Those men are usually the ones who fear intimacy the most and so they need to make jokes to feel comfortable & “manly”. This old belief of “manly” is verily the issue. But I also know it’s not so easy as a man nowadays. We have the same deep issues, spiritual longings as women, yet we are taught, it’s not “manly” to open up. Many times of our lives we have pretended to know, we toughened up, because taking the lead and being strong was expected from us. The only emotion we often allow ourselves to express is anger, because it shows how alpha, decisive and strong we are.
So many of us have these secret sorrows which the world knows not; and often times we are called cold when we are only sad. You may think sayings like: “Real men don’t cry!“ “Don’t be such a pussy” are outdated, yet you would be surprised how deeply ingrained this conditioning is still in modern men and I come across it in my Men groups every other night. And so – many men lead their life’s pretending to be ahead of their game, when they’re not. Inside they are fighting many battles, longing for an outlet..
And so deep down, there is a big longing for conscious brotherhoods, the need to be part of a community of likeminded conscious men, a space where men realised that masculinity is about cherishing both – their masculine, but also their feminine side. A place where it’s considered manly to be spiritual, vulnerable and sensitive. Where shadow work, deep talk and freeing our minds are part of our daily routine. Where we all firmly believe that a man who conquers himself is greater than a man who conquers a thousand men in battle. Today I feel there are a myriad of offers for women (which is great) — but there is still very little for men. Therefore, I am hosting Conscious Men Circles all over the world. And I’d be grateful to have you join one too.